I met Gen when our daughters were put together in kindy together.
Apart from being particularly lovely Gen seemed like any other caring mum.
But later I found out that she had a story, a bloody big one.
When she was nearly 4 years old Gen was sexually abused by her mothers partner for roughly 3 years. He would wake her in the middle of the night, telling her that wearing knickers to bed was "dirty" and that she needed to be showered, then make her shower or bath with him using a variety of punishments, rituals, tortures, oral sex and molestation. And send her back to bed, curled up, wet and shivering. This was her bedtime routine for 3 years.
It took Gen 14 years to tell anyone about the ordeal, and she did well because the average time somebody keep abuse to themselves is 22 years.
You see research shows that the feeling people struggle to express the most is shame.
This baby grew to believe him, that she was dirty and to be blamed solely for the late night showers. She was frozen in fear and therefor compliant and scared of further humiliation and abuse.
Gen wouldn't be blamed for keeping her past quiet, she wouldn't be blamed for going on to have an unhealthy opinion towards men or sex, but instead Gen decided to spend her entire life preventing other children from this kind of horror and is now a Child Safety advocate and child sexual abuse Trauma specialist.
Statistics tell us that a child is most likely to be abused between the ages of 3 to 8 and children are shockingly 90%-96% more likely to be abused by someone the child knows and trusts.
Gen goes to schools and she teaches children about protective behaviours, she gives children a language to talk about something that they are completely silenced in. And most importantly she tells the children a mild version of her story. This is what brings children to her after her talks, this is where she gets informed by sweet kids who haven't been able to tell anyone that this is happening to them too, because they can relate to Gen and to quote a Rene Brown, "shame cannot survive Empathy"
You would be utterly shocked if you knew how many children were holding onto these secrets.
To sit with Gen is inspiring beyond belief, she is caring and calm and 100% dedicated to keeping kids safe.
Just another warrior Queen turning her pain into power 💗💗
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Just wanted to give you all a wee update on our gorgeous girl. Even though Lisa gets weaker by the hour and her pain is excruciating, her heart and mind are strong which I'm confident is what's keeping her with us.
She is sleeping most of the time and only wakes when she's in pain or has a one liner to share. She woke today and said we were like a pack of fucking peacocks showing up for feeding time. Some people might put that down to the drugs but rest assured it's Lisa being Lisa:)
As you all know Lisa is celiac (gluten free), well was gluten free.... yesterday she ordered her first McD's cheese burger in 8yrs and although she only had a few bites she savoured every mouthful. Todays order was alphabet spaghetti on normal white bread, again she only had a few mouthfuls but she really enjoyed them.
As Lisa's pain increases so do her meds, which means the time we have with her awake is becoming less and less. I always thought I'd hate this, as to me we would never have enough time, I just wanted her with us. How wrong I was. When you see your child suffer as Lisa is suffering you do something you never thought you'd have to do! You pray hard that God sends his angels to gently lead her to her place in heaven. You tell her that they are waiting for her so they can get the party started and you hope to God she's listening to you.
I will sign off for this evening but before I do I really wanted to share this photo with you. I had always imagined when it came close to the end, Lisa would sleep a lot in our arms, like you see on TV. But in reality it's not like that, cancer has taken over your whole body at this stage and even to gently touch is sore. In some ways I was feeling I was missing out on something so special. However, Lisa was in so much pain last night and couldn't get comfortable. She whispered for me to get in behind her were I remained for a few hours. I treasured every single second in this position, I would hardly breath let alone move in case I'd disturb her and truth be told I didn't want that special time to end. My husband Peter snapped this photo, I will be eternally grateful he did.
Thanks again for all your love, support and beautiful messages. We value every single one and truly appreciate you keeping Lisa in your hearts.
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A five-year-old has brought Vodka to school for lunch after she grabbed her own frozen juice pouch from her mum's freezer.
The mother (who remains unnamed) wrote on Facebook: "EPIC lunchbox fail when you tell your five-year-old Preppie to put a frozen juice pouch in her lunchbox and you forget the other pouches in your freezer!"