A couple of weeks ago after taking the kids out for dinner I grabbed a couple of beers and went to the skate park, tire them out so they crash without fighting.
There were 2 kids there, long blonde haired kids who's skating skills defied the laws of gravity and who spoke kindly, respectfully to the younger less talented kids like mine.
And I met Denim, their dad.
With long hair and an obvious story to tell, we started chatting.
I was intrigued by these children, while my son complains that he needs his fortieth pair of shoes for the month and picking his nose in front of the school principal these guys are winning state competitions, training younger kids and have an incredible ability to connect with adults.
They must have a mum with her shit way more together then me. Their dad must be totally strict and focused.....
Well that night I learnt that these children were pulled out of school against all advice, without even home schooling and driven around Australia on a quest to skate every single skate park in the country.
You see a few years ago Denim had the horrific job of telling these two gorgeous boys that their mum had died by suicide. After that period of indescribable hardship Denim decided they need to pick up and leave, giving away or throwing away all of his possessions and embarking on a trip of healing with no time frames or certain direction, he told me that he let his children "choose their day" if they saw something they wanted to do, they just did it.
Schools said no, they said the boys will be held down a year, police even pulled him over questioning why the kids weren't at school. But Denim followed his parenting instincts and gave the boys what they needed to heal. All on a modest single parents pension, which we all know couldn't have been easy.
They decided to hold their heads high and made a pact to make mum proud and speak of her only in the light and never dwell on the darkness.
Upon returning Denim asked the schools for 1 request, don't hold them down. They have grown and healed a lot, please just let them try in their own years. The school agreed and what do you know? They flew through the year.
Not to mention the boys both won "king of the concrete" 1st and 2nd in the state and have 3-4 sponsors each. Pretty fucking rad for high school kids.
It's just reinforces my beliefs that everyone's doing what they believe their kids need and some times the most unconventional parenting turns out to be the most beneficial.
Proud to know these kids and call Denim a new friend. 💗💗💗💗
It's not the police who need to be retrained, it's the public. We have grown into a mouthy, mobile phone wielding, vulgar, uncivil society with no personal responsibility and the attitude of 'it's the other person's fault', 'you owe me'. A society where children grow up with no boundaries or knowledge or concern for civil society and personal responsibility.
When an officer says "Put your hands up," then put your hands up! Don't reach for something in your pocket, your lap, your seat. There's plenty of reason for a police officer to feel threatened, there have been multiple assaults and ambushes on police officers lately. Comply with requests from the officer, have your day in court. Don't mouth off, or fight, or refuse to comply... that escalates the situation.
Police officers are our sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, brothers and sisters. They're black, white, brown, all colours, all ethnicities, all faiths, male and female, they are us. They see the worst side of humanity... the raped children, the bloody mangled bodies of traffic victims, the bruised and battered victims of domestic violence, homicide victims, body parts... day after day.
They work holidays while we have festive meals with our families. They miss school events with their kids, birthdays, anniversaries, all those special occasions that we take for granted. They work in all types of weather, under dangerous conditions, for relatively low pay.
They have extensive training, but they are human. When there are numerous attacks on them, they become hyper vigilant for a reason, they have become targets. When a police officer encounters any person... any person, whether at a traffic stop, a street confrontation, an arrest, whatever... that situation has the potential to become life threatening. You, Mr & Mrs/Miss Civilian, also have the responsibility of keeping the situation from getting out of control.
The police are the only thing that stands between us and anarchy in the streets.
If you want to protect your child, teach them respect.
"When people ask 'whos baby?' we reply 'ours' 'yeah, but whos actual baby?' 'ours' The confusion on their face. His biology doesn't matter to us so why does it matter to a stranger. Why cant they just ask if he is loved. Thats all that matters."
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